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When You Discover You’ve Taken the Wrong Path

A while back I got a little lost. I discovered I was on the wrong path.

My husband, son, and I took a mini-vacation to Devil’s Lake State Park in Wisconsin. While there, we wanted to do a little hiking. The helpful man at the information center at the park told us we needed to take the East Bluff Trail in order to see the park’s most amazing sights.

We started off fine. The trailhead for the East Bluff Trial was clearly marked. We huffed and puffed our way up the steep trail and were rewarded with this spectacular view of the lake.

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We then continued on what we thought was the East Bluff Trail, but the further we went, the more challenging the trail got. We were scrambling over boulders and dodging poison ivy. My son noted that the trail was not looking very “trail-y” anymore. But we kept following any little worn spot in the dirt we could find between the rocks.

Finally, after a particularly steep climb up some serious rocks, my husband announced, “Here’s the trail!”

I laughed when I caught up to him because… the real trail was black-topped! How could we have missed an asphalt trail in the woods?

Sometimes I have discovered that I have taken a wrong turn in life. Instead of keeping on my true life’s path, I’ve allowed myself to be distracted by fear, by ambition, or by other people’s opinions. Or I’ve taken a wrong turn simply because I haven’t been paying close enough attention to God’s guidance.

Eventually, I realize that the trail I’m on isn’t very “trail-y” anymore. I have a vague sense that I’m not on the right path. Clues that I’ve taken a wrong turn are feeling distant from God or a low-level anxiety all the time.

What can we do when we sense that we have taken a wrong turn in life? Psalm 25 has some answers.

  • Examine what may have caused you to miss the right path (lack of trust in God, for instance):

O my God, I trust, lean on, rely on, and am confident in You.  (verse 2 Amplified)

  • Ask for forgiveness:

For the honor of your name, O Lord, forgive my many, many sins. (verse 11 NLT)

  • Come to God with an attitude of humility, acknowledging He knows best:

He leads the humble in what is right, and teaches the humble his way. (verse 9 ESV)

  • Ask God to show you His ways:

Make me know Your ways, O Lord; Teach me Your paths. (verse 4 NASB)

Thankfully, God promises to guide us in the way that is chosen specifically for us when we choose to respect Him.

Who is the man who reverently fears and worships the Lord? Him shall He teach in the way that he should choose. (verse 12 AMP)

Next step: A prayer for today, “Lord, sometimes I think I’m on the right path and then discover I’ve taken a wrong turn somewhere. Forgive my lack of trust in Your ways. Help me get back on the right trail.”

When You Feel Like a Failure

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I often feel like a failure. And my inadequacy and errors make me want to give up. But when I look back on life, I see that what looked like failure, also had a positive impact on my life.

One summer my friends and I decided to have a fruit stand.

Only we didn’t sell fruit. And never mind that our street didn’t have much traffic.

We were sure that in no time, neighbors would stop by to buy all the extra tomatoes, onions, and cucumbers from our garden. My mom would have a little less to can and we would make a little cash for the candy store.

So my dad got an old table down from the attic and nailed on some long supports for a sign. I made the sign. Can you tell?

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The sign wasn’t perfect. The “fruit stand” wasn’t a roaring success. My brother, friend and I probably sold about 8 tomatoes, 5 cucumbers, and 20 glasses of lemonade during the week it was in operation.

The bottom line showed our fruitvegetable-lemonade stand was a failure.

There have been many other things that I have tried and failed. Twenty-plus years ago I started speaking at schools about classical music. That speaking career flopped. I also wrote a Bible study about contentment that was never published. I wasn’t very content.

But there is one thing about failure. It’s better than not trying.

Thomas Edison wrote:

Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

So I keep telling myself: Keep trying. Yes, when you try something new you might not succeed right away. You probably will experience some failure. But keep trying. Learn from the failures and move on.

My fruit stand was a bust, but my friends and I learned how to count change, make lemonade, and pick tomatoes. My classical music lectures were a failure, but now I do get to speak to women’s groups about Christ’s love. That contentment Bible study is still in a file drawer, but by God’s grace two other Bible studies have been published.

So if you’re trying something new and your first attempt looks a little like my fruit stand sign, remember to keep learning, keep growing, keep trying. You don’t know how close you are to success.

Lean on the Lord, He is our strength–even in our failures. God reminds us:

My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever. Psalm 73:26

Next step: When you feel like a failure, pray the promise of Psalm 73:26!

How to Avoid a Fall

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In sixth grade I had a spectacular fall because of a bit of pride.

The school I attended was part of a large church. During the school year each class took turns singing for the church services. Well, in sixth grade our entire class was learning to play the recorder. And we were getting pretty good. One day our teacher, Mr. Giese, announced that our class was going to perform for an evening service. Most of the class would sing, but three of us would be chosen to play the recorder part. I tried to play it cool when I was picked to be one of the three, but inside I was bursting with—I might as well say it—pride. 

Before the church service that night, I changed into my dress—and my first pair of pantyhose! (Believe it or not—there was a time when pantyhose were cool.) I was really going to wow everyone tonight: new dress, recorder, and pantyhose.

When I got to the church, I climbed the stairs to the balcony with my beloved recorder. With each step I heard the organ music grow louder. At the top of the steps I paused at the back of the balcony and looked down the short flight of stairs to the front of the balcony. Mr. Giese was at the organ in front of me. Most of my classmates were already in the pews on either side of the aisle. Good. I could make a grand entrance.

I took a step. And another. Then disaster struck. Somehow I tripped and landed on my bottom with a thud loud enough for Mr. Giese to hear me above the organ music. Loud enough for him to stop playing and look to see what had happened. Loud enough for all the kids in my class to shake with quiet-as-possible laughter.

I looked down at my pantyhose. Both knees had holes the size of dinner plates. A million runners scampered up each leg. My brand new pantyhose were no longer so impressive.

My sixth-grade experience was a perfect example of Proverbs 16:18:

Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.

While that encounter with pride led to a literal fall, there have been many more times when my better-than-you attitude has resulted in humiliating failure. What is it about pride that trips me up? I think it may cause me to fall because I’m looking down at other people rather than watching where I’m going. I’m too busy staring at myself to notice any potential dangers. I’m so worried about how I look, that I forget to look around me.

In order to avoid the consequences of pride, I need to wear humility more often. The differences between pride and humility are striking:

Pride continually gazes at a mirror. Humility looks at the girl next to her.

Pride tries to focus all attention on herself. Humility asks her friend how she is doing.

Pride expects praise. Humility looks for ways to build up others.

Pride demands to be first. Humility pushes others to the front of the line.

Pride wonders what others think of her. Humility just thinks of others.

Avoid the fall. Wear humility.

Next step: Which of the contrasting statements about pride and humility resonates with you? Write it on a sticky note and post it where you will see it today.

Divine Design

To find out more about wearing humility, check out my Bible study book, Divine Design: 40 Days of Spiritual Makeover.

Lessons from China: Don’t Let Brokenness Destroy Your Beauty

The Black Dragon Pool in Lijiang, China was broken.

All the tourist guides and travel books I read about Lijiang told me to visit this beautiful site where you could see the Jade Dragon Snow Mountain reflected in a pool of clear blue water. Indeed, the pictures of it online were beautiful. This picture, in particular, made the Black Dragon Pool a must-see on our itinerary:

However, when we arrived in Lijiang and walked from our hotel to the Black Dragon Pool, this is what we saw:

Unfortunately, the pool part of the Black Dragon Pool was empty. All of the water was gone.

The woman at our hotel attributed this to the three-year drought that this part of China has been experiencing. But as we walked around the park we saw other parts of the park had plenty of water.

Then we noticed a bridge in the park that was in desperate need of repair. When we walked across it, many of the floor boards were broken or missing.

And underneath this bridge it appeared that construction crews had built a dam of sorts to hold back the water. The boulders piled beneath the bridge prevented water from reaching the most picturesque part of the park. We presumed that this dam was erected so the bridge could be rebuilt.

And yet no one was working on the broken bridge. No workers were present. The bridge remained broken. The pool remained empty.

The brokenness destroyed the beauty of the Black Dragon Pool.

Often this happens in our lives as well. Something in our life gets broken. Our hearts or our dreams are shattered. Our marriages or our careers fall apart. And it’s easy to think: I’m finished. I’ll never be useful again. No one will ever find me attractive. 

Sometimes we allow the brokenness to steal our beauty. We wallow in our regret or mistakes and remain splintered. We forget that God is in the business of fixing crumbled lives and making them whole.

In Ezekiel 34:16 God tells us:

I will seek the lost, and I will bring back the strayed, and I will bind up the injured, and I will strengthen the weak.

God delights in making broken things whole. He longs to be there to offer us strength when we are weak. He desires to restore our beauty through Jesus’ righteousness. We don’t have to stay broken.

Mark Batterson, in his book Soulprint, writes:

He (God) wants to resurrect your personality that has died at the hands of those who have hurt you. He wants to resurrect dreams that have died of disappointment. He wants to resurrect relationships and give them a fresh start. He wants to give you an abundant life, both quantitative and qualitative. (p. 137-138)

We don’t have to fear brokenness, because God can heal us stronger than we before. He can make our relationships better and our inner beauty shine brighter.

Don’t stay in a broken state. Bring the pieces of your life to God and watch Him put them back together in a new and glorious way.

Next step: Thank God that He is in the business of fixing broken lives. Bring Him all the pieces of your brokenness and watch Him put your heart and life back together.

Lessons from China: Don’t Build a Fake

The city of Lijiang in the Yunnan province of China is lovely, intriguing, and….. fake.

My husband and I heard from several people that this ancient Chinese city was worth the trip. I became excited about visiting this historic landmark when I saw pictures of it online.

The city of Lijiang is on the road to Tibet at the foot of the Himalayas. It is near the Jade Dragon Snow Mountain (read about our trip to this mountain here) and is full of traditional pagoda-style buildings. (In the words of my three-year-old grandson, they are the houses with the dragon roofs.) Some people even think that Lijiang was the original Shangri-la.

So my family and I took a long train trip to see this ancient city and what we discovered was … a fake.

It turns out that much of Lijiang was destroyed in an earthquake in 1996. Many of the the modern concrete buildings did not survive the devastation, but some of the traditional-style buildings did. So they decided to rebuild the city using the old ways. Now the city looks ancient, but is actually quite new. In fact, “Old Lijiang” is constantly expanding.

Even worse, while we walked the new cobblestone streets, we discovered that every “ancient building” was a souvenir shop. Everywhere you looked, the fake old buildings shouted out, “Look here! Buy this! Purchase that!”

Lijiang was a disappointment.

But it was also a reminder of what I sometimes do. When things in my life break apart, I try to fix them by myself. I attempt to rebuild my reputation in a way that looks real on the outside. I strive to form an image that draws attention. But it’s a fake. It’s not the real me.

What God wants is authenticity. David wrote in Psalm 51:6:

Behold, you delight in truth in the inward being, and you teach me wisdom in the secret heart. (ESV)

Often I’m trying to be something that I’m not because I don’t think who I am is good enough. Or like the Lijiang city planners, I think building a fake will get more attention.

Anyone else out there building a fake?

What I have to remember, what we all have to remember, is that yes, we are broken. The earthquake of sin has destroyed the people God meant us to be.

BUT, through faith in what Jesus did for us on the cross, God can rebuild us into something whole and lovely and authentic.

We don’t have to pretend to be beautiful. In Christ we already are.

We don’t have to fake righteousness. Jesus’ blood has made us pure.

We don’t have to act important. In God’s eyes, each one of us is precious.

When you start doubt this–when you begin to resort to rebuilding yourself in a world-pleasing and fake way–remember the words of Ephesians 2:10:

For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago. (NLT)

Next step: When are you tempted to be fake? Rejoice that God loves you just as you are!

Lessons from China: How to Listen Past the Noise

During my recent trip to China, I was struck anew by the beauty of Chinese characters.

And the seeming impossibility of reading them!

Here are some examples of some of the signs I saw there:

I mean–how can anyone actually learn to read these beautiful, but extremely complex characters!

But while I was there I began to notice some characters that appeared very often and my daughter (and her four-year-old son!) told me they meant:

big:

person:

and China:

When I started to pay attention, I made a tiny bit of progress in my understanding of Chinese.

It turns out that paying attention is the key to learning a new language, especially at the beginning.

My son-in-law told me of a phenomenon that he learned about when he was still in school in the U.S.

He said that if a person does not make a concerted effort to learn the language of the culture he is living in during the first 18 months of living in that culture, the mind will begin to interpret the language as noise. That person will of course, still hear the language spoken, but the mind will stop trying to make sense of it and simply file it under the category of senseless sound.

This got me thinking about God speaking to me. Often I complain I can’t quite hear God’s voice. I’m looking for direction, but I can’t seem to find it. I want Him to tell me His plan by writing it in the sky or blasting it on the car radio.

But could it be that I’m not understanding God’s words to me because I have been ignoring His voice for awhile? He’s been whispering in my ear, but I have been too busy to really pay attention, so my mind begins to interpret His words as noise in my head?

Isaiah 28:23 says:

Listen and hear my voice; pay attention and hear what I say.

I must admit that there are days when I read my Bible, but I don’t really pay attention to God’s voice. The words enter my eyes, my brain understands the letters on the page, but my heart doesn’t hear the message.

I do better when I prayerfully read God’s word, stopping periodically in my reading to ask questions like:

  • “What are You trying to teach me Lord?”
  • “What do You want me to do with this message?”
  • “How can these words change my heart?”

When I truly take time to listen, I hear God’s voice. I can hear His words of grace. His message of love echoes louder in my heart.

Next step: What do you do to pay attention to God’s voice? When you settle down to read His Word, ask yourself the three questions above and record your answers.

Lessons from China: Why We Need to Thank God for Tunnels

Anyone who knows me well, knows that I love mountains. I love to ski in the mountains, hike in the mountains, and simply gaze at mountains.

So one of the reasons I was particularly excited about my recent trip to China was that we were going to make a special journey to see the Jade Dragon Snow Mountain (pictured above). To get to this spectacular peak, which tops out at 18, 360 feet,  my husband and I took a nine-hour train trip with my daughter and her family through the mountainous terrain of the Yunnan province. My little grandsons are big Thomas the Tank engine fans so this was an adventure for them.

On the train

During the long trip, Aaron, the four-year-old, and I had an engaging conversation about what we saw whizzing past the train windows. As the train climbed higher and higher, sometimes up and over hills, I told Aaron about my passion for mountains. I told him that I loved the mountains because they are so big and beautiful and they remind me of just how immense God is. Since He made the mountains, He is even bigger than they are.

Mountain views from the train window

View from the train

But the journey also took us through some loooong dark tunnels, which Aaron though were cool, but which I complained about. After all, when we were in a tunnel I couldn’t see the mountains.

Aaron asked me, ” What do the tunnels remind you of, Grandma?”  (That little guy asks some very insightful questions!) Unfortunately I didn’t have a good answer for him at the time. But the question stuck with me.

After some thought, I’ve decided that the tunnels remind me of the dark times of my life, the days when I can’t see God at work in my life, the hours when He seems far away.

I don’t like tunnels.

But then I thought of the purpose of the train tunnels. Although the tunnels were difficult to engineer and build, the effort was worth it because they made the train trip shorter and faster than if the train had to go up and down or around every mountain in its path. The tunnels are shortcuts to the destination.

What if the dark tunnel times in our lives are shortcuts to where God wants to take us? What if the times when we can’t see Him at work are fast tracks to the person God wants us to be?

During this same China trip we spent a lot of time in planes and airports. I used the time to read Soulprint by Mark Batterson. One of the many passages I underlined was this:

“In God’s grand scheme, it’s never about orchestrating the right circumstances. It’s always about becoming the right person. And sometimes the worst of circumstances brings out the best in us!” (p. 26)

It’s the tunnels of life that help us become the person God wants us to be.

I wish every day would be bright and sunshiny with a breathtaking view of snow sparking on top of majestic peaks. It would be wonderful if I always could sense God’s presence and understand what He was doing in my life.

It’s easy to thank Him for those mountaintop experiences.

But sometimes the tunnel experiences are necessary shortcuts to becoming the right person. The dark times are fast tracks to developing character. The days when I can’t seem to seem to see God through the gloom give me the opportunity to learn to  trust God no matter what.

When I remember that, maybe I can begin to thank God for tunnels.

Question: What do tunnels remind you of?

The Magic Thread–How to Find Joy in the Present

There is a French story called “The Magic Thread” that teaches how to find joy in the present.

Once an old woman gave a young boy named Peter a silver ball. She tells him that inside the silver ball is a thin golden thread and explains, “This thread is your life thread. If you don’t touch the thread, your life will pass normally. But if you wish to have time pass more quickly, all you have to do is pull on the thread a little and an hour will pass by like a minute.

“However,” the woman warns him, “Use the thread carefully, for once the thread is pulled out, it can never be pushed back again.”

At first Peter is just happy to have this precious gift and is a little afraid to use it. But one day he is bored with arithmetic class and gives the thread a tiny pull. Suddenly the school day is over and he is walking the forest path back to his home. After this experience, Peter uses the gift of the magic thread whenever life seems boring and a little difficult.

As Peter grows he continues to pull on that magic thread. He pulls it to hasten his marriage, hurry along payday, help his children become self-sufficient sooner. He uses the unique gift whenever he is impatient or tested.

Suddenly he awakes to find that he is an old man, living all alone.

He searches for the old woman to return the silver ball and asks for a second chance to live his life without it. For he says, ” Your magic ball is a wonderful gift. I have never had to suffer or wait for anything. But life has passed too quickly. I feel that I have had no time to take in what has happened to me, neither the good nor the bad.”

if you tend to make your happiness contingent on just one more thing, read this story.
Don’t Wait for Joy

I imagine that all of us, at one time or another, have wished that life would move along a little faster. We are sure that we will be happy when we have just one more thing. When we’re young, we know we will be happy when we’re finished with school. When we’re single, we’re sure marriage will fulfill all our needs. We may be certain that having children will satisfy all our deepest desires. Then when we have kids, we’re sure we’ll be happy once they’re moved out of the house.

Like Peter in the story, we tend to make our happiness contingent on one more thing, only to find that we could have had joy all along if we had only taken the time to fully engage in life.

I love Psalm 4 because David starts out wishing, like the boy Peter, that all his troubles would be gone:

Answer me when I call to you, O God who declares me innocent.
Free me from my troubles. Have mercy on me and hear my prayer.

Psalm 4:1

But he ends with the realization that God has already given him joy–greater joy than those who are experiencing great success and prosperity:

You have given me greater joy
than those who have abundant harvests of grain and new wine.

Psalm 4:7

We don’t have to wait for everything to be perfect to have joy. God will give it us joy right now–even before He gives us relief from our problems.

Don’t wait for joy. Instead of asking for a magic thread, ask God for joy. Instead of wishing for time to pass more quickly, enjoy life now as a gift.

In the center of your troubles, in the middle of your waiting, in the midst of the everyday–God promises joy in Christ.

Next step: Are you having trouble finding joy in the present because you continually look to the future? Are you waiting for everything to be perfect before you enjoy your life? Bring all your troubles to God and then ask Him to help you find joy right where you are.

And if you want more inspiration for finding joy, check out The Secret to Finding More Joy.

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When the Waves Seem Too High

When my husband and I visited the beautiful island of Kauai, we arrived at our resort at night. We could tell our building was near the ocean, but didn’t realize until the next morning that our room was only steps away from the beach. We woke up to a spectacular sunrise–so spectacular that we decided that we would get up every morning to watch the world awake. (Quite an undertaking for this non-morning person!)

Every morning we oohed and aahed at the pinks, blues, and purple colors in the awakening sky. We saw the golden ball of the sun peek out from the gray sea.

And we noticed something else–a small boat. Every morning right before the sun made its grand entrance, a small watercraft left the river-harbor and went bravely into the ocean. We wondered aloud why this boat went out every day at the same time. Was it a morning ritual of the boat owners? Or did the boat go out on official business?

One morning the waves were quite high. It seemed a storm was brewing. But the little boat still went out in the strengthening surf. It bounced along in the waves, but it didn’t turn back.

This morning I remembered that small boat when I read the story of Peter walking on the waves.

 Then Peter called to him, “Lord, if it’s really you, tell me to come to you, walking on the water.” “Yes, come,” Jesus said. So Peter went over the side of the boat and walked on the water toward Jesus. But when he saw the strong wind and the waves, he was terrified and began to sink. “Save me, Lord!” he shouted. Jesus immediately reached out and grabbed him. “You have so little faith,” Jesus said. “Why did you doubt me?”

Matthew 14:28-31

You see, I’m a lot like Peter. I want to exhibit great faith. When Jesus says, “Come!” I want to respond wholeheartedly.

I want to obey Christ’s call on my life. But it’s funny how the waves always look a lot smaller before I take that first step. Before I start the project, I’m confident I can do it.

And because God has called me to it, I expect everything to be smooth sailing. I don’t expect turbulent water.

But so often everything looks scarier after I’ve taken that first step and I want to give up. The waves look too high and I begin to sink. I think I haven’t heard God’s call correctly and I start to lose faith.

Fortunately Jesus reaches out His hand and pulls me to my feet. He explains that just because He has called me to take those first steps that they’ll be easy. That even when I’m walking in obedience, the waves might be rough. That things may very well look more frightening when I’ve stepped out in faith than they did from my comfort zone.

Jesus assures me that even when I think I’ve walked into an impossible situation, that He is there with me. He will hold onto my hand.

Like Peter he asks me to trust Him. Like the little boat in Kauai, He asks me to keep going despite the waves.

Question: What do you do when the waves in your life seem a bit too scary?

 

The Best Way to Find Joy

Joy can be an elusive quality. What is the best way to find joy?

Oh, there are days when joy fills my heart like the air filling a hot-air balloon lifting me to new heights:

Seeing my husband-to-be at the end of the aisle as I take my father’s arm.

Delight at the births of my two beautiful children.

Watching my daughter’s face beam as she walks down the aisle.

When Joy Isn’t Easy to Find

But there are days when joy is not an easy emotion to find:

The doctor gives ominous news.

The money in the bank account isn’t quite enough to pay the bills.

The brakes on the car are making a funny noise, the dog gets sick on the carpet, and the dishwasher spews sudsy water all over the wood floor.

How do you grasp onto joy then?

A Reliable Source of Joy

Lately, God has been speaking to my heart about joy. He’s been teaching me about the one reliable place to access joy.

Psalm 16:11 tells about the one way to discover joy every day.

You have made known to me the path of life; you will fill me with joy in your presence, with eternal pleasures at your right hand. (Psalm 16:11 NIV)

In these words, I hear God whispering:

Come to me. Joy is always available in my presence.

When you take your eyes off the broken car and busted dishwasher, and instead look at me you will find joy.

When you stop comparing your life with someone else’s, you will find joy.

When you stop thinking happiness is contingent on success, you will find joy.

When you turn you heart toward Me, you will find joy.

Joy evaporates when I turn my attention to my problems.

Joy floods my heart when I turn my heart toward God.

Next step: Post Psalm 16:11 where you will see it today. When you start to lose your joy, draw your attention back the God, who is always with you. In His presence, you will discover joy.